It’s a new year and a new chance to step back and change your perspective. So often I find I get caught in “my hamster wheel of survival” spinning that metal cylinder as fast as I can, wearing myself out and accomplishing very little. Even though I am busy, happy and tired at the end of the day, what have I accomplished?
Billie Jean King once said, “Never confuse movement with action.” This is a very wise statement for me to live by. Are you, as a bride, running your metal cage and demanding everyone to keep up with your hamster wheel? Are there so many details to keep track of and decisions to make that you are making yourself exhausted, accomplishing little or nothing? The new year offers you a chance to sit back and decide what kind of bride, person and spouse you really want to be. Categorize those things into areas of importance and act accordingly.
This is the beginning of your opportunities in life to challenge yourself with the unknown. After all, how many weddings have you really planned? Do you want to be stressed, unhappy with outcomes you can’t control and disappointed with those who don’t live up to your expectations? Why not change that paradigm and enjoy the adventure, appreciate the investment others are making in your future and be grateful for all the blessings you have in your life right now.
Next take some time to think about the most overlooked guests at your wedding. I was reminded just last night at a trunk show when I met a bride and her mother planning the final details of her big day. They seemed relaxed and truly satisfied with all the arrangements. When they told me of their venue choice, I asked if there were going to be any elderly guests as there is quite a walk from the parking lot to the ballroom. They quickly scanned their minds and thought of Grandpa Bill and maybe Great Grandma. The groom’s good friend just returned from Iraq on crutches. They realized they would have to come up with a solution to make these guests not only comfortable but special. I suggested they assign ushers to be their personal minders for the evening—assisting them with drinks and the buffet, plus to be available for transportation back to the hotel when they are ready to leave.
This is just another way of looking at the upcoming event. Change your perspective with the change of the calendar. You will definitely have a better year.
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